The Power of Admitting You Struggle—And How It Can Shape Your New Year’s Resolutions

In some industries, admitting a struggle is a strength—a sign of humility and growth. In others, it’s practically taboo, a perceived weakness to be avoided at all costs. For example, in politics, leaders rarely acknowledge difficulties, even when they’re obvious. Business often operates the same way, where admitting trouble can be seen as a liability. The finance world, too, seems to prefer the illusion of control, glossing over any cracks that might show.

Contrast this with sports. Professional athletes routinely acknowledge their challenges. After a game, it’s common to hear players credit the other team for their effort, openly admitting that they were tested. It’s a sign of respect and authenticity. The arts and entertainment world embraces struggle, too. Some of the most beloved songs and films come from a place of pain or vulnerability, creating a deep emotional connection with the audience.

This willingness to confront difficulty is not just refreshing—it’s essential. Struggle is universal, and acknowledging it is one of the most powerful ways to connect with others. And as we turn the page to a new year, this mindset can profoundly shape how we approach our resolutions.

Why Can’t Students (and Many of Us) Do the Same?

So, why is it so hard for students to admit they’re struggling? Why does asking for help in school carry such a stigma? The truth is, asking for help is a skill—a difficult one. It takes strength, humility, and courage to admit you need support.

But here’s the good news: times are changing. More and more students are learning that it’s okay to ask for help. This shift mirrors the reality of adult life, where success is often built on collaboration and support. Leaders, executives, and professionals across industries depend on others to thrive. My own father, a tax lawyer, often spoke about how much he relied on his administrative assistant to stay on top of his work.

If relying on help is so ingrained in adult life, why should it be different for students? And why should it be different for our New Year’s resolutions? Why should we feel shame in admitting we’ve struggled to reach past goals or that we need help to meet new ones?

The Value of Vulnerability in Resolutions

Admitting a struggle isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a sign of growth. It’s the first step toward improvement, understanding, and connection. Being vulnerable enough to say, “I didn’t meet last year’s resolution,” or “I need support to stick to my goals this year,” is what allows us to bridge gaps and find solutions.

This lesson goes beyond the classroom or the workplace. When we open up about our struggles and our aspirations, we build trust, foster relationships, and create a culture of honesty and collaboration. Admitting that you’ve struggled with consistency in exercising, budgeting, or keeping up with personal relationships doesn’t make you weak. It makes your resolutions realistic and rooted in self-awareness.

Let’s Lead the Way

As educators, mentors, and parents, we have a responsibility to model this kind of openness. We need to create environments where asking for help—whether it’s in academics or in achieving personal goals—is normalized and encouraged. By doing so, we empower students and ourselves to embrace struggles as opportunities for growth.

This year, let’s shift the narrative. Struggling isn’t a weakness; it’s part of being human. Instead of setting rigid, unachievable resolutions, let’s focus on goals that allow room for growth, setbacks, and support. Let’s celebrate the courage it takes to admit where we’ve faltered and the strength it takes to start again.

Because in the end, admitting you struggle isn’t just okay—it’s powerful. And it might just be the key to making this year your most fulfilling one yet.